Episode Notes

Coming to you from Whidbey Island, Washington this is Stories From Women Who Walk: true-life, practical, funny, heart-breaking, insightful human experience stories from women who are walking their lives while their lives walk them and the lasting difference these journeys have made. You’ll recognize yourself in stories of adversity, challenge, fear, discovery, adventure, expression, and more. Why? Because, the sorcery of stories is this: they help each of us to be seen and heard, to understand and be understood. I’m your host, Diane Wyzga.

Today my guest is Sarah B Rawz who’s joining us from Virginia. When last we spoke I was beginning to pose a question to Sarah B about a favorite topic of hers: From Gremlins to Golden Buddha. Let’s hear what this talented, insightful, and fabulous coach has to share with us.

Minute

0:00 to 2:20 Introduction

From Gremlins to Golden Buddha

2:00 to 8:45  Discomfort and the Gremlins

• How do we discern the inner Bad Mind Radio voice from our wisdom
• Discomfort as a topic is so present for me and, I think, so many of us. It ties in beautifully to the Gremlin/Golden Buddha topic: discerning the deprecating inner voices from the wisdom, especially potent and challenging in the midst of discomfort!
• The part of me that says I am not enough, arrogant, afraid, and so on – these are gremlins
• Gremlins behave as loud, over-powering, influencers who know which buttons to push versus the quiet voice of inner wisdom
• Sarah B stumbled on a useful technique: naming the parts of us that are gremlins and befriend them as a  practice and a process
• Wompuss is her Gremlin of Not Enough
• Another insight from a partnered meditation called focusing (Hindenberg burning) illuminated Wompuss as not fierce but sad and blue and haystack-ish
• These exercises changed conversations with wounded parts of herself
• Practical tip: approach the self with compassion to get to the voice of wisdom
• Offer compassion to access wisdom and knowing
• How did the foster children experience inform Sarah B’s own gremlin experience
• The gremlins may be “foster children” and the notion parallels the image of a night-frightened child
• We honor the emotional reality of the child’s night fright but don’t buy in to the interpretation of fear, for example, as being monsters under the bed

8:45 to 12:45 The Golden Buddha Story

• Sarah B tells the story
• The story is a metaphor for what we cover up, what we can chip away, and what we can negotiate to let go of to live freely, profoundly accepting ourselves
• Process of learning gremlins and selves is a process of growth, more information, more tools, to negotiate a golden life

12:45 to 46:36 Three Tips to Shift Gremlin to Golden Buddha

• Most important tip: perpetually attempting extraordinary patience because our life is a journey toward uncovering
• Second tip: Use your body as your guide. Take 30 seconds to practice a full body scan to light up the hot spots of discomfort, experience the sensations, and inquire into what’s going on. This way we build trust with ourselves to uncover inner wisdom
• Third tip: Practice noticing and appreciating each pleasure, each joy, each tiny accomplishment
• “How could this get any better?”  Says that this is great and I’m ready for even better!
• From gratitude comes energy

Networking As Discomfort – So Now What?  

16:40 to 22:50  Networking Is Icky and Insincere

• Networking as discomfort – a weighted word
• Particularly relevant with COVID and networking online
• We are no longer mixing in person; so, now what?
• How do I network now in stuckness
• How do we manage the minefields with the gremlin voice
• Begin here: translate ‘networking’ into ‘relationship building’
• Approach the relationship with curiosity to see what arrives
• We live in an inevitable web of interconnection; we get to choose to lean in or lean away
• Networking is relationship building
• Within relationship building is trust and curiosity to see what might be there
• What might be there waiting for me in this box of chocolates that looks like a person
• As long as your “ask” comes from authentic intention (1) we are people being people who need one another, and (2) feels good being of support
• Cross-pollination: good for the bees and good for the people

Legacy

22:50 to 27:55  Lasting Results

• “I’m not saying I’m gonna change the world, but I guarantee that I will spark the brain that will change the world.” ~ Tupac Shakur
• Without biological children, what happens to my name
• If I don’t have a literal legacy, my personal and professional impact is the energy ripple to betterment, empathy, and  compassion
• “Each one teach one” (English As a Second Language) Just do your work and trust that we came here with a cosmic contract to be of use: to live, to work, to love
• Sarah B’s professional role: Learn – Share – Repeat
• A source of joy for Sarah B to experience life being of use and support to benefit others

27: 55 to 31:09  Thank You With a Full Heart

Before I say thank you I want to mention that all social media links as well as all the connections to Sarah B’s website, newsletter and blog are posted below in these Episode Notes. Please make sure you visit Sarah B, check out the many resources available to you, sign up for her newsletter, and consider scheduling time to talk with Sarah B to continue this Super Power conversation and move in the direction you might not even know you need to go.

Thank you for sharing your walk with us. I wish you Buen Camino as you go forward!

Here we are, at the end of the road but not the journey. Thank you for listening to this episode of Stories From Women Who Walk with your host Diane Wyzga and my guest Sarah B Rawz. I hope you were as inspired and motivated as I was by Sarah B and the journey of her life story that walks a long way to helping you with yours. Remember to visit Sarah B on her website and sign up for her monthly newsletter to stay in touch with what’s next. All links are in these Episode Notes. Meanwhile, please stop by every Monday through Friday for 60 Seconds, Time Out Tuesday, Story Prompt Friday, and every Thursday for longer guest interviews and Diane-On-Mic episodes. You’ll find us on Simplecast or your favorite podcast platform. Come for the stories – stay for the magic! And speaking of magic, would you leave us a nice rating and review on Apple Podcasts. When you return bring your friends and rellies. You will have wonderful company as we walk our lives together.

Sarah B’s BIO:

Sarah B Rawz is a business and empowerment coach who builds her work on two guiding beliefs: One, that we are not creating our best selves but, rather, uncovering them; and, two, that the often-challenging work of uncovering our best selves is also what gives us the energy, presence, and wisdom to make our unique positive change in the world. From that foundation, she acts as a catalyst for professionals, world-changers, and humans of all stripes to live more fully into their biggest, baddest life.

How to connect to Sarah B: [website | linkedin | newsletter goodness]

https://www.linkedin.com/in/sarahbrawz

Newsletter: https://rawzcoaching.us8.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=6e8aadeca1b71fe8c46571ba7&id=d5691136ea

Production Team: Quarter Moon Story Arts

Music: Entering Erdenheim from Crossing the Waters by Steve Schuch & Night Heron Music

Sound Editing: Dawin Carlisle & First Class Reels

All content and image © 2019 – Present for credit and attribution: Quarter Moon Story Arts

About the Guest

Sarah B’s BIO:

Sarah B Rawz is a business and empowerment coach who builds her work on two guiding beliefs: One, that we are not creating our best selves but, rather, uncovering them; and, two, that the often-challenging work of uncovering our best selves is also what gives us the energy, presence, and wisdom to make our unique positive change in the world. From that foundation, she acts as a catalyst for professionals, world-changers, and humans of all stripes to live more fully into their biggest, baddest life.

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